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This Is What I know To Be True



1. Experience is what you get, when you don’t get what you want.

Your best friend’s boyfriend cheated on her with you. You realized the hurt and pain one person can cause another, so you never became ‘the other woman’ again.

You went to college, got your degree, but choose that wasn’t the right path for you. You now have the accounting skills that many business owners lack.

You got married to your high-school sweetheart. Quickly you realized that you haven't experienced what else life has to offer. Your divorce inspired you to travel, stretch outside your comfort zone and create amazing relationships.

You got into a car accident. A drunk driver hit you, totalling your car and killing his daughter in the process. You turned to meditation to pray for her, and to pray for those who drink and drive. You now teach others how to cope with grief.

If you are willing to take a leap of faith, and love your journey for what it is and not how it should be, what you will get is experience. And in those experiences are opportunities to learn, to grow, to heal, to love.

2. We have more than one soulmate.

Your soulmates are like your mirror, who show you all parts of yourself. The good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly. Bringing to your own attention the areas of your life that you may be blind to, that need to change, for the sake of shaking you awake to your potential.

These are the most crucial relationships you will have in your life, and if you're lucky, you will have many. Some soulmates are gentle and will peel the wallpaper off your walls to uncover hidden truths, and other will show up in your life to tear down walls leaving you exposed to your bare bones.

What experience has taught me is that my past soulmate, who was my ex-boyfriend, challenged me like no other. Mentally and emotionally, he encouraged me to dive deep into my own, for lack of a better word, bullshit. That only lasted so long until we grew out of each other. Both of our 'truths' were revealed. Scary messy realizations.

It wasn’t until we parted ways, that I was left on my own to truly reinvent myself. Become me without him. Clean up my bullshit. He smacked me awake to my true potential. What I had been procrastinating with and holding myself back from, poured out of me like water after the breakup and that courage rippled out into many areas of my life.

I would not be who I am and where I am, without the painful but necessary truths of that relationship.

That breakup brought so much learning and compassion back into my life. He wasn’t my soulmate when we were together, he became my soulmate when we let each other go.

And thats the painful beauty, the paradox of soulmates. They don’t usually stick around. They come and go. Only to break your heart wide open, make you spin out of control so all the your left with is transforming your life.

3. You’re going to hurt someone.

Just like soulmates who come and go. You don’t want to, or mean to, its unintentional but it happens... You’re going to hurt someone.

We’re all just doing the best we can with what we’ve been given. At best, all we can do is learn from our mistakes and next time choose a different approach for the least amount of hurt or misunderstanding to show up.

Slow down your reaction time. Approach with love and light that is inherent in each and every one of us.

We’re all in this life together. Hurting. Loving. Living. Seeking.

XO


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